I spent ten years in a relationship and subsequent marriage that never should have happened. As the saying goes, "it doesn't matter who you marry as you're sure to find out the next day they're someone else." Anyway, the night everything folded, I had loaded all my stuff in the back of my truck, shut the front door behind me for the last time and got behind the wheel. It was a rainy, cold night, and as I sat there with my hands on the wheel watching the rain course down the windshield wondering where I was going to go and what I was going to do, like a bolt of lightning the thought hit me:
"Wait! I'm SINGLE AGAIN!! I can do whatever the EFF I want!! WOOOO-HOOOO!!" and drove happily off into the night...she was HIS problem now! I never looked back - not on the drive away or the years to come. Best decision I ever made. I got my official divorce papers in the mail on Christmas Eve, too! It was the one thing I REALLY wanted that year. I even let her keep the three grand she owed me as listed in the divorce decree and considered it money well spent. Oh, the stories I could tell you of what we put up with and fought our way through - but luckily I've been with my current wife for over 17 years now, and life with her has been great!
FWIW, one of the things I did after my divorce, and before I met Barbara, was I drew up a List of 'Ten Things You Need to Know About Me' and put it in a little frame on the wall - ten heartfelt, the top ten True things about me and what I liked and like to do, and if anybody had a problem with ANY of them, they didn't need to be there. I met Barbara five years later; she was cool with everything on the list, and life has been great so far!
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Life is WAYY too short to be unhappy.